Silence may give suggestion...

Hacked by the thoughts, hanged by action

letting it go in a hope;Silence may give suggestion.

Dont accuse my absence, its for thy peace

I know not what you seek nor will perceive.

Prior to thee ,let me know whats in me.

Cross my heart, will be consious shortly

as you are more than absolute to me.

But For now dont have any notion

Hacked by the thoughts, hanged by action

letting it go in a hope;Silence may give suggestion.

They make fun of "confused minds"

Its really wonderful to ponder on this word 'confusion', In recent days I came across many situation which made me know about the people's Perception about this word(confusion).

Out of 100%,more than 90% assume this as a negative word as if  it is a taboo for a human to be confused.
To be a bit detailed,If someone is in confused state of mind and somehow it comes to the knowledge of people,the very first common reaction shown by people is as same as the reaction a vegetarian gives to non-veg dish on his plate!!

Most don't try to understand that if someone is confused and facing problem in taking decision and came for help from them then they shouldn't show their prototype negative reflection rather they should feel good that the confused person considers them as superior, wise  and want their consultancy!!

The very question should be focused on is-"WHY one is confused?", if we assume it in a negative way then we are showing that we don't have the skill to solve things or give someone solution..

Now if we assume it in a positive way , then we will get to know that:-
-one gets confused when he have many ideas and have to choose one among all.
-one gets confused when he don't want to  regret for his decision.
-one gets confused when he have many options and want to choose the best.
-one gets confused if only he have the caliber to think about things from different dimensions.

We should know that one who gets confused don't take "decision making" for granted.Even Sometimes we get to learn from a confused person a lot of things which we have never came across!!

Recently with some practical experiments had funny experience (you can try it too)- The one to whom you go for in seek of suggestion when you are confused,instead of giving you a trenchant suggestion or conclusion if he starts to talk nonsense like 'why you so confused!! or why cant you take decision!!', simply give him 3 options and ask him to choose one for you, if he choose one among the three ..then the game begins :), ask 3 simple questions to him -1.why you chose this option? 2.why not the other two option? 3.If the other two option will be more fruitful,should I regret?.... then watch his confused face and enjoy ;) (in most of the cases you can have fun,try it but prepare well )

All I realised that its natural to be confused as taking decision is not an easy task and if someone is not  confused at times then he/she is not looking at a particular thing from different dimensions or don't have much options or don't give a deep thought to things.

Getting confused and taking time to finalize things is better than regretting.  

Small Miracles..

Miracles are nothing till you have trust on them..
Small statue of loving birds bring happiness among couples like a miracle,
Small butterfly have much colors to bring smile in human eye like a miracle,
A bunch of bamboo trees maintain bonding in family like a miracle,
A small book can keep individual mind in a different state like a miracle,
Small brothers n sisters stands for your protection even they are not strong enough like a miracle.:)

They even want to be Famous!!

As per the survey of some of the  highest selling tea stalls- the owner of the tea stall proudly states that "A highly  paid dark circled eyes holder gets lucky for 30 mins in the day  hours when he gets a tea break.Few steps away from office.standing infront of a tea stall holding a glass of tea  ,lighted fag with few slangs for his boss is far more comfortable than the AC cabin provided to him."

Now talking about Mr. Jha , senior HR in a multinational company who use to handle the training and development section. He use to invite experienced motivational speaker , successful businessmen, highly paid modern philosophers who are well versed with Bhagbat Gita,Quaran, Bible for motivating the existing employees so that they will have mercy on the organisation by giving their full efforts after listening to the bla bla of the professional trainers.

Mr.Jha came across many trainers who used to request him-"sir, please give me an opportunity for training your employees with new strategies , I even charge very less(few thousands for the session), surely you will be pleased" After 2- 3 yrs when Mr. Jha tries to contact the same trainer-"Ohh Mr. Jha , I am having a tight schedule this month, hopefully will try for your organisation next month and to be very straight my charges for training have hiked a bit,,not much (few lakhs for an hour)" .Like an humble man thanks him and drop the call.

In weekend , Mr.Jha use to drive his car early morning  to his favorite tea stall skipping his morning walk, where Pintu (son of the owner of "jai ho tea stall") rush with newspaper,special lemon tea and with a smile on face. Always Mr. Jha use to find some of his friends sitting and chatting about work, family . politics. sports..even he gets indulge in the group discussion and leave when the discussion becomes blather.

The first sip of Mr.Jha's lemony tea was about to get over, a brand new shiny black BMW X 1 approached and familiar face jumped out of it and smiled looking at Mr.Jha.

 It was Dev (financial advisor,passed out from a top B-school), wearing a t-shirt,track and sneaker, old friend of Mr.Jha 

Mr.Jha said,"nice car Dev, so this is the car you were talking about last week!!, its gorgeous, today you have to pay for this lemon tea as a treat"

Dev-"Sure,drink as much lemon tea as you can Bibhu(Mr. Jha's nick name), piley beta  jitna pina hai, but finish asap , we will go for a long drive,"

Both the friend went for a ride and the ride turned into a real long ride and they stopped at their old college, had talk about their college life- how they use to have fun , how they use to bunk classes..how 

many crush they had..how they use to pass comments..football with bare foot in rainy days.... 

As its a general rule,when two old friend use to sit alone and talk ,talk ..talk and end up like emotional freaks.

After returning to 'jai ho tea stall'.. Dev breaking the silence,"you know what i wanted when i was a student!!"

In reply to that Bibhu said,"indeed money and girl..you have both and now you too have a BMW, right!!"

Dev-"yes, right.. as you know human wants are unlimited,,then I wanted to acquire power of knowledge so that people will follow me.., people started to praise me , at first it was a nice feeling then later on got bored and fed up with it because all I found in my client eyes was fake admiration "

Taking a gulp of water again Dev continued."anyway , I dont want that people praise me for my power of knowledge about finance management rather want that people should recognize and love me for my deeds "

After listening to the words of Dev, Bibhu taking a long deep breathe said, "hmm, nice.. dont mind by following words-you are using your power of knowledge for getting clients and remuneration  from them, thats your need,right!! then how come you expect their money as well as their love for you, you fullfill their need and they fulfill your need, its your fault that you are expecting more than your service to them,its simple.. okey need not to ask ,you know about Warren Buffet and Bill Gates! "

In return to Dev said," what kind of foolish question is this Bibhu!!everyone know these two great human, I really admire and love these two characters !! " 

Bibhu smiled and reckoned,"now listen, when I asked you about Warren Buffet and Bill Gates, your conclusion was that you admire and love them ..Out of 100 if I assume 99% people will say that we love and admire them but 1% will say all of a sudden that -we want to be like them and serve the society..Even fiction character like Zorro and Robin Hood are liked by us, now you should know why!!"

Dev was about to say something but Bibhu blocked him and added,"let me finish!!, some argue that they are having family responsibilities and dont get time for serving the society , its all nonsense!! By this kind of statement of people there can be two conclusion-either Bill and Warren dont have any responsibilities or they have surplus of time to serve people for free by donating their hard earn funds.. so if you want love from people then you have to sacrifice your hard earned attachments for them..!! , its simple. Gaining true admiration and love is not easy my dear friend. :)"

Dev- "Guess you are taunting me indirectly.."

Bibhu-"Indeed ;P, But I have an idea, why dont you start today!! Since morning I am watching that Pintu is looking at your brand new BMW like watching a sweet dream. Donate your car to 'jai ho tea stall ' and get an Maruti Alto for self,  you will be famous in this city, tomorrow you will be in news paper and Pintu will truly love you his whole life and many will admire you!! "

Getting shocked by the words of Bibhu, Dev making a face like Pug said,"WHAT!!"

Making fun of such expression of Dev, Bibhu patting Dev's back and  said,"I was Kidding, please dont have  an heart attack,lets move , its getting late,Anyway dont worry i like you more now because  you have a new car too but I tell you 'attachment sucks.';)"

Whose life is better!! ;-)

As most ladies related to successful men say that “behind every successful man there is a woman” so as the unsuccessful believe in this too.

Up here in this case the situation is quite different .There are few speciality about rainy days such as-1. People get inclined towards eating pokadas.

2. People who can’t ever be punctual get reason delaying their work.

3. So called BFs and GFs who would be bunking tuitions for discovering parks and malls... later on can explain their parents for reaching home late. For example- they had to wait in the mall which is situated on the way to their home as it rained heavily all of a sudden.

4. Better group discussion takes place and if the topics are like bitching, scolding and cursing about rival parties then the environment is like herbal aroma of tasty masala tea.

But the following situation is quite different as compared to the above...

The ‘kaam wali bai’ (servant) always prefer that her bosses should be professionals so that they can skip half their work very well for which they get paid. Their last preference is to work at a place under the observation of a housewife (maalkin), who takes all the frustration of work load on the kaam wali bai by making her work perfectly.

If you look things in other way both maalkin and the bai are best buddies when it comes to chat about the neighbours as all kind of well absurd updated news will be with the bai which a maalkin is keen to know.

But again to mention, the situation is different, in the following story two leading characters are

Mrs Basmati, the maalkin.

Kanta bai, the kaam wali.

The special features about Kanta bai , she use to arrive sharp at 4 pm and ring the door bell as if she will get in the house through the calling bell switch, very particular about departure time from the work place, faithful, stuffed with updated news about every members of a house she use to work, always smiling ,if not ,then complaining .

And the special features about Mrs basmati , she is always keen to know what all Kanta bai know about others , even afraid of Kanta bai because if Kanta bai will leave working whose remuneration is reasonable as compared to other kaam wali bai..then it will be hard to get someone else to fill Kanta bai position as we know in current scenario its easy to trace an unemployed IT graduate but not easy to find a faithful and reasonable kaam wali.

Mrs Basmati is a house wife and her husband is an engineer, he use to leave home at morning for office but don’t have any fixed time for returning home from office as he is an Engineer. Mr Basmati and Mrs Basmati hardly get time to spend together.

JIt was around 4pm, Mrs Basmati was trying not to doze off in a fear that if she will sleep and by mistake if she will not be able to open the door when Kanta bai will arrrive then she have to herself wash utensils, have to do the dusting even have to broom and mop the floor.

As usual Kanta bai arrived at sharp 4pm and made the door bell scream. The moment Mrs. Basmati opened the door she found something different- there was no smile on Kanta’s face rather she greeted Mrs. Basmati with a wry face and made her way towards the kitchen for cleaning the utensils.

Mrs Basmati, the 'curious questioner' made her way to kitchen and showed her concern through asking kanta the reasons behind her dry n wry mood,

“What happened Kanta? You look tensed. Are you feeling unwell? Or someone said something to you!!”

“No maalkin, nothing such happened”

“then why you are looking so upset!!”,while showing concern to Kanta bai , Mrs. Basmati gestures were like-as if someone hurts Kanta bai then Mrs. Basmati suffers twice of Kanta’s suffering.

Getting irked Kanta bai -” Maalkin!! What you want to hear!!aaa ! That my husband is such an idiot, don’t do anything as if he don’t have any responsibilities!! God may know why I got married to such an irresponsible person, whole day and night he will be stinking like a pig due to consuming alcohol till his neck, wastes his money in enjoying worthless life and making my life hell!!”

She took a long breathe, “Anyway leave it maalkin, you don’t worry, I will be fine. I have taken for granted that it’s my fate. ” after screaming kanta carried on with his work wiping her tears which was streaming down on her cheeks in mean while.

Seeing such reaction of Kanta, Mrs. Basmati got bit scared and assumed that if she will ask Kanta bai anymore question then in anger she may break costly borosil glasses and plates which she was cleaning.

After washing utensils kanta bai started dusting and murmuring,

“Kanta!! What’s your problem, why you are getting so much irked and crying! If you know that your husband is not going to change then why don’t you leave him, you are earning well and don’t have to depend on him ...and take your children with you too as well for better education and future, if they will stay with such father then they will be spoilt ”

Kanta slapped her forehead with shock,”OMG!! Please don’t say such things maalkin! I will rather die instead of staying without my hubby. Forget about me, if he will have any idea that I am planning to leave him and take our kids with me then his heart will be broke, he loves us very much, he will die without us.”

Finding such change in kanta's voice and words, Mrs.Basmati said“why don’t you ask him to stop drinking and save money for future as you know- how important education for your children and with passing of day’s education is getting costly... If he would have loved you all then he wouldn't have wasted money on consuming alcohol. ”

“No no maalkin! You don’t know, he loves us a lot... I know he waste money but for future studies of our kids he saves every month and also pays LIC premium for me and our kids regularly for safe and better future. He is paying for three LIC policies for us”

Listening to Kanta bai, Mrs Basmati got surprised after knowing about the management of Kanta’s husband... she went on thinking how he would be managing to pay premium and make savings... even if Mr. Basmati is an engineer still at times he fails to pay LIC premium and at the end of the month at times it becomes hard for them to maintain minimum balance in bank account!!

“Malkin!!! What are you thinking! I tell you everything... my hubby always love to spend time with me and our kids ,in a month he takes me movie at least twice..you know ,He looks so cute when he says that he loves me, that’s the only best part of him when he is drunk, otherwise when he use to be in normal state, he never shows his love to me in a cute way. You know he is so good... but when he meets with his friends –he party and consumes alcohol... whatever... currently am angry on him but you know!! I love him so much.” Kanta smiled shyly...

“Ok maalkin; don’t mind by my question, does your hubby consume alcohol too?”

This question was unexpected for Mrs. Basmati, still she managed to answer, “aaa, umm yes he have to drink at times, in corporate meeting and sometimes with friends”

“Acha!! Hmm... Anyway maalkin, it was nice to have a talk with you, I am getting late for work, I should rush, will come for work tomorrow on timeJ ” and she left.

Locking the entrance after Kanta’s departure Mrs. Basmati sat for a while and started comparing her lifestyle with Kanta’s style..,”her husband takes her to movie ,my husband don’t have time.. She and her husband pays premium on time and saves money but we always can’t ... the only similar thing - both our husbands use to drink when they are with friends”

Mrs Basmati didn’t understand whether she should feel pity on self or should get angry on Mr Basmati or should envy Kanta bai... and finally she got a solution – she switched on the TV and started watching serials.. J