Granny talks on Durga Puja Celebration & Youth.

A season well known for nine days of thanks giving to the most powerful Goddess who slew the demons and brought peace in world. Our country most awaited Durga Puja Festival season. 

The festive days are well spent like vacation, family get together, full of sound and music events , cities filled with colourful lights and not to forget the cheerful spending of bonus on discounts,sales & offers. This period of time is enjoyed by all age groups with the spread of activities full of happiness and Dharmiktas. Some celebrate with family in worshipping Goddess with complete devotion, some consider this time for relaxation and some completely utilize this time to make money in the name of events and business.

The nine days celebration i.e Navratri is famous all over India.The illuminating diyas, the different types of pakwans , new dresses , unwrapping of gifts with curious expectations ,smiles on everyone face and togetherness among groups is well seen everywhere. Even if the way of celebrating differs because of demographic and cultural factors still shower of blessing and love of Maa Durga remains same for everyone.
No doubt in it that the trend changes with change in generation, the idea of celebration of Navratri in the time of our Great Grandfather is not indeed same with the idea of celebration the of current generation/youth.

One thing Grandmothers are very good at is ‘sweet taunts’ with a smile and message. When Grandmother is asked about how they used to celebrate maa Durga festival-she said, "Festival time in our days was something different; whole family, kith and kins gather at native and stays together for nine days, playing card games, fighting and shouting among themselves on games, food for all was cooked in one kitchen and all eat together after first offering of food is made to Goddess as Prasad. Different types of homemade recipes and sweets were prepared and served, the concept of buying sweets and chocolates were not there from retail stores  in those days but still all enjoyed the  home made fresh sweets

Relatives were invited for dinners. In the last three days of Navratri , i.e Astami and Navami and Dasami, grand dinners with relatives and guests were arranged.  If anyone fails to reach their own native in the festive time then everyone misses him /her and he/she themselves regret for not able to catch up with their joint family”.

Listening to Granny about her days, how can one not ask her about what all changes she finds now a days in the way the current generation celebrate the Festival. And no doubt Grandmother have to say a lot of things with a taunting smile, as they have seen the changes and she speaks, "Now if I Ask a youth about Maa Durga Puja festival, they will start talking about different shopping malls and start comparing which mall have more discount options.The major focus now a days Which hotel or event organizers have best Dandia arrangements.. kids now says that Gifting ladoos and fresh fruits to relatives is so outdated, they only like packed dry fruits and cold drinks.. Getting together with whole family concept have almost ended. The wishes over mobile phone calls have become more important than wishing each other in person.Instead of worshipping Maa Durga with family in one own humble house, they prefer to visit pandals where music will be high and they try to find blessings from Maa  Durga calling ‘Jai mata di' loudly and the rest  prefer to check with so called travel agents for better discounted travel packages for visiting foreign countries. But yes, the theme is same, the lights and music is same, blessing of Maa Durga is same on everyone… It’s just that the way of celebration have changed.. Everything changes and all say change is for good but hope the approach of nuclear family concept doesn’t make the thread of togetherness thinner  ..." And ending her talks she finally smiled with blessings and that was beautiful.

Jai Mata Di :)

A Part of God's own Heart.

He holds you with care in his rough hands,
but never wants to see your hands turn rough.
His eyes reflects all,even he say less words.
Tough he is considered as the epitome  of anger , passing of time makes you know the hidden care..

The experience of his turns to your lessons,
he is the passion of your ambitions.
You fall and rise, he just stands tall and smiles,
the smile makes you strong to run miles..

He scolds, he preach, he nag and makes you  build..In the course, its to realise the intense worldly burden he takes to deal with your hobbies..

No one wants rough hands, nor did he..
Living a hard life makes it rough..Still he held you with care to make you a human and it takes a lot...
He is 'Father'.
A part of God's own heart.

With a hangover

Never accepted it would happen

even if it was known long back

the unwanted has its own course

not in the hands of mortal

Left behind lots

sacrificed without buts

Didnt care what I could 

inevitability is a cloudy hood

Acumen so is well versed

once a pride can turn into guilt

Though not a Regret 

as it is fated

Its the nature of world

more you try to persuade

drag the stipulation of penance

Con is just a game

deals with the brain

Nothing is stable, its just dearer

living live with hangover.

____ Out of Sustainablility

If Abraham Maslow would have been alive, he would have added more slabs & components  to the Hierarchy theory pyramid in detailed version.

A school student considers himself as old- retarded who cant adjust himself in this complex world after watching his grown up members of family whereas his grandfather at the age of 68 wants to live and accumulate more & more so as his grandson life will be materialistically secured.. And inbetween  Rest of the world suggests the grandfather and the school student to consult a Psychiatrist.

Here is a short story -Humpty's father worked hard and spent a lot of money on Humpty's education and forced him to study hard to make him an engineer who will earn a lot ..Finally 'Humpty the Engineer' got a job and went to abroad..
After 4yrs, Mr. Rascala Rowdy(Humpty's Father) wants Humpty to come back to his home country, stay with his parents then marry a housewife who can cook good food and can lay talented eggs..But Mr.Rascala didnt consider the following points:-
1. Humpty dont need pocket money anymore to fuel bike to roam around with his girlfriend
2. In the last 4 yrs,Humpty has transformed from Dumb Humpty to Yo Yo Humpty.
3. Humpty purchased a small house in abroad  which his father thought as a wise investment.

Skipping the story a bit , At the end Mrs Rascala Rowdy consoles his husband for his son's ignorance as she used to console Humpty in past for his father's slaps and shouts..Finally Mr. Rascala understand and takes wise decision to keep own mouth shut so as to avail atleast  the Medical Insurance which Humpty's company will be providing for his parents.

Some of the basic suggestions now hovering around for freshers in the polluted environment are as follows:-
1. "Get a Govt /PSU Job.Life will be secured". True Unsaid-reason Behind Suggesion(TUBT)- 'You are not capable of handling business nor you have bulk fund to invest and  in pvt sectors you will be kicked the very next month because of targets...Rather you will be in comfort zone and no point using your whatsoever skills'

2. For a Guy- "Marry a House Wife, You both can spend quality n quantity time together".- TUBT- 'if you will marry a working lady, you have to drop her in office, collect her dresses from laundry .Salary of kaam bali bai and the hotel bills for food  will be more than your 2 months salary. in short you cant afford. '

3. For a Girl- "Marry an IAS/Govt Employee/CA/ who would also be having side business too, You both can plan a better and practical life "- TUBT- ' your husband will be busy in making much money so that you can afford to hire  kaam bali bai who can cook ,clean and give you all the updates of the circumference as well as you can take out time to perform some productive activities in kitty parties.   as the fact is  you cook crap and your working skills are horrible.. all you can do is gossiping.'

Sustainability!!. Ow such a sweet word, the ability to sustain in this world with friends, family, society, work, relationship etc etc..And why to sustain!, lets face it-  we are so afraid of losing that fear makes us feel that sustainability is very precious & zest of life. For an example, A criminal also need to sustain his crime in progressive manner because he have a fear that once he stop crime and turn into a saint to try something new , nice and different ,he will be dead..

IN real sense , sustainability concept is for those who are so much into so called comfort zone that in true sense they are killing the unknown skills they have within and by the time they reach at the level of Self Actualization, its like knowing the proper use of flavoured Condom at the age of 80.

Its like trying to sustain without living the moment.

Now lets fill the blanks of this Post, '---- Out of Sustainability', the simple aaaannnswer is 'SHIT':)
i,e SHIT Out of Sustainability or vice versa.
*kind attention-in this post  SHIT is derived from the word 'Insecurity' :)

Go for an evening walk.Get Distracted.

The evening wind of Summer is the most beautiful & fresh sensation one will ever feel  after a long scorching heat and tiredness of day work.
The faster we walk tearing the wind sooner the tiredness start leaving us, some say it boosts up stamina..some say its as regular exercise n even some say its for muscle relax!!. Its to ponder how come giving pain to muscles/legs by walking/jogging/running takes away the tiredness and makes us feel relaxed!! WAKE UP !!,Here we need to understand the true fact-i.e, Its all in mind with the stuffed elements of thoughts from which we need to run away..
Few sample thoughts-
"If I will be fat, I die"
"If I  will be depressed,I will die"
" I am poor, I cant afford best hospital, I will die"

Its the flow of thoughts garnished with anxiety/tension/depression which  makes us tired in a different way and its impact is so intense that it makes the whole body locked in an invisible small sized suffocating box..

Isnt it Amazing that mind gets relaxed after physical workout!! but why!! How come Physical workout becomes a Saviour!..Ting Tong!!!! the fact is physical activities are kind of  a diversion, a distraction to make you null by cleaning the garbage of your mind..

I have heard many stories of couples, they fight with each other, break things, negotiate, drink, consult doctors, plan to kill eachother and finally incase out of frustration they have SEX with eachother!! OW that bloody Mins of Sex becomes their Saviour curing the fights of  days n days!! After that they would be apologising eachother about their behaviour/mistakes taking all the blame on own..WTF (Sorry frnds I revealed your stories). But the Point is- it helped the couple cleaning their mind filled with the concept of  'Ego', 'Proving self right' , 'whtsoevr mine is first' etc etc.. Anyway they could have gone to gym or for a walk instead of draining all their energy in bed.

There is Person named 'They' who cant just sleep without listening to music!! Here to repeat it again, 'they' need distraction from  shitty bogus thoughts which are hovering in mind.. Lyrics and beats are just diversion..Finally the miracle happens, 'They' Sleep.But no doubt 'they' is going to be deaf after few + few years due to the ear plugs :). Concentration is no more important as compared to distraction for peace.

Yoga, Music, Swimming, Walking, Martial Arts have become more dearer than chocolate cake with choco chips n Coffee!! Even wallpapers of restaurants are designed with karate postures and yogis. What exactly you mean stupid interior designer!!.

Now being normal have turned into a sin.All want to be unique as even government wont sanction startup loans for normal business.. Girls in gunboots & cowboy jeans whereas Guys in white pant with red roses prints & peacock blue shirt is in trend. Oh Lord of Fashion. 

Anyway cut the crap , Go for an evening walk and get distracted ;)

Live life now as after death you wont able to see parks , flowers and footpaths on which our Government have spent a lot from the tax you pay.

The Recovery

Idle is sick.People/wellwisher or whtsoever-wisher won’t let you be idle, their biggest problem is that you are not tensed/worried/happy or anything but idle.They cant tolerate such silent mind of yours. Even they drag it to extreme cases by booking psychiatrist appointment for you & force to go for the Session,WTF!! Why cant one be idle with a clear n clean mind!!

Its true at times that the more you talk and stay active, the more you experience, deal & feel adrenaline within you…But at the end you need  to be isolated, all need to know the power of silence to calm down. The truth of giving up everything to the inscrutable nature.No emotions or actions, No thought, No crying or laughing but just idle and calm state of mind.The inhale sensation of refined air spreading within the null body.. isn’t it  the life of nirvana !! the Recovery..   

Odd brought together..

It was  assumed to be a sweet miracle when the odd brought together;they met like buds, shared the thoughts which they cant share with anyone.They felt oneself with eachother as if they are talking with their reflection.They shed tears feeling the pain for eachother, they smiled and glowed in happiness n success of each other. It was like one soul residing in two bodies..a look in eyes were enough to say thousand words between them.Anger used to be in heights while fighting, guilt used to be so deep in return.The platinum bond was so strong ..They knew it would not last forever, a fear and sad feeling  of partition was always there in each step, still they tried to live in present for cherishing the moment, such honey it was. Drowned in the moment, every bit of the moment being selfless, careless beyond society n culture like Adam and Eve played before the almighty curse.. But Difference was obvious with passing of time as they were the Odd who were brought together..They real fight started, the blame game, the misunderstanding , they had to part,they had to run away, they had to grow like stem of a branch with thrones hurting eachother..they regretted there existence with eachother,focused on finding reasons to ignore eachother, they regretted for knowing eachother forgetting all the tiny peaceful memories. All the understanding , happiness , care turned into burnt charcoal..Everything went into vain..Finally they vanished wearing a mask hoping not to meet ever.. i.e how the Odd brought together..